I sat in the driver’s seat, clipped my seatbelt, started the ignition, and took a long… deep… breath. Why was I feeling so unsettled?
Why, after a lovely lunch with a longtime friend, did I feel tired and a little down?
What was causing the uncomfortable feeling in my gut?
Over time, it became clear that the reason I was feeling that way was because my relationship with my friend had changed. Our values had grown in different ways, and the expectation to stay connected in our ‘old way’ was no longer serving either of us. I felt especially drained that day and realized I’d been trying to keep the relationship alive through sheer will and effort.
We’ve all heard that people come into our lives for ‘a reason, a season, or a lifetime.’ I’ve found that this isn’t just a saying, but a reality. There’s no need to look for the right or wrong in the temporary nature of some friendships— it’s just a matter of a relationship running its course. And when it does, we must look for the blessings the friendship has brought us and be strong enough to move on.
On the other hand, healthy, uplifting, value-sharing relationships enhance our lives and well-being. Investing time with a friend or a group of friends, having fun, supporting one another, providing empathy, and jointly holding the mirror for honest mutual growth is crucial for living a balanced and fulfilling life.
Is there a special friend in your life that you haven’t had time to connect with recently? Are you in need of a new friend?
We have family, work, and all the responsibilities in between. It can be challenging to find time to invest in our friendships, but even the smallest connections matter.
Want a simple way to nurture an old friendship or start a new one? Sending a hand-written note in the mail takes just a few minutes and is a connection keepsake your friend will cherish. It will make you feel wonderful, too!
Snail mail can seem old school, but there’s nothing like that feeling when you receive a beautiful, hand-written card in the mail. Share that feeling with someone you love. These gorgeous hummingbird notecards are sure to bring some beauty and cheer to life of your friend or family member!!
In case no one’s told you this yet today: you’re wonderful, you’re doing great, and I believe in you. Oh— and I’m gad you’re my friend!